I believe that so much of our suffering and maladaptive behavior is rooted in a subconscious need to belong, to be accepted, to be loved. I say subconscious because while many of us “know” we want friends and need the love of others in our lives, we don’t have awareness of how deep this need penetrates our everyday life and psyche. (more…)
In my most recent blog, I wrote about a broader definition and experience of positive body image. I shared that positive body image is not confined to a sense of feeling attractive, but can and does encompass other experiences with our body. I want to write about one of those experiences. (more…)
“Expectations are disappointments waiting to happen.”
That feels like an accurate statement to begin this blog post. Within the last year I have written two separate blog posts (1, 2) where I have had to rumble with personal expectations for my body and myself as I have progressed through pregnancy and early postpartum. This rumbling with expectations seems to be my learning curve this year, because here I am again rumbling with another failed expectation about my body. (more…)
A common misunderstanding about eating disorders is that it’s all about food. It’s not. People may think it’s all about the food because even the diagnostic title is about food: eating disorders. However, eating disorders are highly complex diseases created and maintained due to a variety of biological, psychological, social, emotional and physical reasons. One of the reasons I love working with eating disorder clients is because each client’s experience is unique and often complex.
I recently had a seemingly benign conversation with a well-intended, good friend:
Friend, “Anna, do you want to run a race together?”
Me, “When are you thinking?”
Friend, “Sometime in the next few months?”
Me, “Oh, no, I wouldn’t be able to do anything until at least next summer. I haven’t started exercising since having Liam.”
Friend, “How come? Liam is 3 months old?”
Me, “Because whenever I exercise, I lose my milk supply.”
Friend, “Oh. Anna, if you need to exercise for your mental health then you should! Babies have been thriving on formula for decades now!”
Many of you have seen Robbie Tripp’s Instagram post about his wife, Sarah, which recently went viral. In the post, he professes his love for his wife and her curvy body.
The negative mind. Ed. The demon in your head. The eating disorder voice. There are lots of ways of describing the negative thoughts that individuals with eating concerns experience, but they are all essentially describing the same phenomenon which are the thoughts and urges that compel us to make choices that we know rationally are not in keeping with our well-being.
We live in a voyeuristic world where reality television is the norm. We sit on our couches and watch real people’s lives fall apart as they are confronted by worried loved ones during interventions filmed by camera crews. We follow individuals as they move through addictions treatment, and we weigh in with contestants as they try to win money for starving themselves. (more…)