The negative mind. Ed. The demon in your head. The eating disorder voice. There are lots of ways of describing the negative thoughts that individuals with eating concerns experience, but they are all essentially describing the same phenomenon which are the thoughts and urges that compel us to make choices that we know rationally are not in keeping with our well-being.
We live in a voyeuristic world where reality television is the norm. We sit on our couches and watch real people’s lives fall apart as they are confronted by worried loved ones during interventions filmed by camera crews. We follow individuals as they move through addictions treatment, and we weigh in with contestants as they try to win money for starving themselves. (more…)
What if I told you that you didn’t have to depend on strict controls when eating? That you could trust your body and know when you have had enough to eat? That you could actually stop eating when you are full without feeling deprived or desperate for more? What if I told you that you could have ice cream without guilt, carbs without mortal fear? What if I told you that you didn’t need to read the latest fashion magazine in order to know how to feed your body? That you don’t have to obsessively count calories in order to be acceptable? And that you don’t have to pay a fitness guru big bucks to make sure you can fit in your swimsuit this summer? (more…)
I watched my daughters eat their dinner tonight. My daughters have significantly different body types and are four years apart in age. And both know how to eat intuitively. Both respond to their hunger and fullness cues without any second thought.
This is a question I frequently hear from clients as they struggle to overcome their eating disorders. I usually respond to this question with one of two answers: “Yes it is! I wouldn’t work with clients with eating disorders if I didn’t know that was true.” Or “Yes it is, because I live it.”
Last week, I addressed the topic of normal eating and suggested replacing the term normal with balanced or intuitive eating. Normal eating connotes the idea that there is one right way to eat and can sometimes carry an air of judgement. On the other hand, balanced eating is more focused on moderation and flexibility rather than rigidity. (more…)
As a psychologist specializing in treating eating disorders, I get a lot of questions about food and eating. Mostly people want to know if they’re normal.
Never ask a psychologist if you’re normal as the answer is almost always no.
Just kidding. Well, mostly.
Is your body beach ready?
Did you get the memo? It’s time to get your body beach-ready. Social media feeds are full of recommendations, scare tactics, and images letting you know exactly what your body needs to look like in order to be “beach-ready” this summer. There are diets, fasts, cleanses, workouts, and procedures all guaranteed to make sure your body is ready for June. There are even handy countdown calendars to remind you just how many days you have to get that body ready. No pressure.