Last month I spent five days traveling around the North Island of New Zealand in a camper van by myself. Now whether your reaction is – “Epic!” or “But what about all of the things that could go wrong?!” – I’d like to make a case for why I think everyone should do something like this at some point in their life. (more…)
Though numbing is often used to avoid difficult emotions, such as pain, fear, grief, and shame, it can also be used to numb feelings of powerlessness, uncertainty, overwhelm, discontent, and disillusionment. Life is big, it is so, so big, and I don’t know about you, but sometimes when I consider the scope of life and all that it calls for, it leaves me feeling very overwhelmed and not at all up to the task. Churchill put it best: “Life is one damn thing after another.” Truer words were never spoken. (more…)
Let’s get one thing straight at the start of this blog post: we all numb our pain. We may like to pretend otherwise; that we are somehow more enlightened, that we lean into our pain, that we are proactive about our coping skills, and that we are invested in understanding our emotional experience, and while we may believevery strongly in the value of these approaches to life, when it comes right down to it, when we are hit upside the head with painful emotions, most of us flee. We head for cover, reach for the nearest bag of potato chips, put ourselves in a Netflix-induced coma, or push ourselves to oblivion out on the trail. The mechanism of numbing may be different, but the fact remains the same: we numb in the face of pain. (more…)
Most people I have met, want to do good in the world. They want to make a difference. They want to help people. (more…)
I remember having one of those childhood toy boxes with the cut-out shapes on the lid, where you were supposed to fit the right shape into the right hole. What great satisfaction there was in finding the right fit. But also what frustration and confusion when you could not. Maybe you see where I’m going with this. I spent a lot of time, even into adulthood, metaphorically feeling like the kid trying to figure out what to do with the “wrong shape”. (more…)
Having a family member or member of your community who identifies as being part of the LGBTQ+ community might leave you feeling uneasy, unsure how to act, or even disapproving or avoidant. Is what you’re doing helping or hurting them? How can you be supportive without compromising your own values? This blog will hopefully give you some answers as to the best practices in promoting positive well-being and health for this community.
With almost 4.5 million kids and adults seeking orthodontic treatment, braces have become almost a rite of passage in the United States. Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it), I was one of them and I wore braces for 18 months when I was in middle school. I hated it. About halfway through my treatment my orthodontist had me wear rubber bands to correct my bite. (more…)
The mental health stigma is real. Research shows that the majority of people have negative perceptions, attitudes, and stereotypes towards people with mental illness.
“Oh. You go to therapy?”
“Isn’t therapy for crazies?”
Well, let me tell you. In my experience in out patient settings like Balance, Health and Healing, typical clients in therapy are usually high functioning, intelligent, successful individuals dealing with a myriad of presenting concerns. So, no, you are not crazy for going to therapy.