A common misunderstanding about eating disorders is that it’s all about food. It’s not. People may think it’s all about the food because even the diagnostic title is about food: eating disorders. However, eating disorders are highly complex diseases created and maintained due to a variety of biological, psychological, social, emotional and physical reasons. One of the reasons I love working with eating disorder clients is because each client’s experience is unique and often complex.
As a therapist, I’m often asked what the most common issue I see in couples therapy. While many expect to hear things such as infidelity or pornography, the truth is that poor communication is the leading issue I deal with in therapy. That is not to say that these couples don’t deal with many other issues, and–to be honest–most of the time they come in for a different concern. [Continue Reading…]
A common concern I hear from my clients, and something I’ve experienced myself, is self-doubt. It’s so frustrating to have desires and goals for yourself and then you get in your own dang way because self-doubts start creeping in! Or if you overcome the initial self-doubt and end up beginning on a goal, self-doubt ends up tagging along with constant thoughts that you can’t do it and that you’re not good enough. [Continue Reading…]
As we head into the new year, I’ve been thinking about resolutions and the drive that we have as humans to want to be better and progress. The internet is blowing up with ads for gym memberships and everything seems to have a focus on losing weight. A lot of money goes into marketing for improving physical beauty and health from so many industries. It makes me wonder what changes we would see if we invested as much time and energy into the less visible parts of our lives. [Continue Reading…]
The holidays are over and so is the marathon time spent with family and loved ones. The holidays reiterate to me the importance of relationships and also highlight how relationships can be so complicated and messy. [Continue Reading…]
Although I have not had a child of my own, I’ve heard many recollections of the first moment holding a newborn baby and the immense amount of love the parent feels for their child instantly. The baby didn’t need to do anything but exist and they are loved. As we grow up we begin to lose that sort of love for ourselves. We get caught up in the race of life that makes us believe we have to achieve and succeed to have worth and value. This lack of self-worth can carry high costs as we move forward in life. [Continue Reading…]
1. Therapists don’t have all the answers
Holidays are a good time to make memories with the people we love. They are a built-in reminder that the most important things are right in front of us. They also give us a break from typical day to day activities and are an excuse to show our love with time, gifts, and baked goods. [Continue Reading…]
Buddy the Elf has some horrible ideas, but there is one rule that he has that is 100% true. And no, it’s not having maple syrup on spaghetti. Buddy tells his father “the best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear.” I wondered if this was true and after a quick Google search, I found that there are numerous articles about singing and how it has health benefits: physically, emotionally, and socially.
One of the things I find myself talking about with clients is remaining connected. Connected with their family and friends and with their communities. This feels like such an important part of our human experience; to care about people and let them care about us. As I’ve worked on this in my own life there are times where I find it difficult to feel that connection, even though I want it. As I tune into news and/or social media and learn about the pain that we unnecessarily cause one other, I find that it makes me to want to pull back. [Continue Reading…]