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5 Ways to Strengthen Social Wellness

5 Ways to Strengthen Social Wellness

July is Social Wellness Month, a perfect reminder of the importance of fostering strong, meaningful relationships and creating a supportive community. Social wellness isn’t just about having a large circle of friends; it’s about building a network of positive connections that nurture our well-being and help us thrive. Here are a few tips to enhance your social wellness this month and beyond.

  1. Reconnect with Loved Ones

Life gets busy, and sometimes we lose touch with the people who matter most. Use this month as an opportunity to reconnect with family and friends. Schedule a coffee date, make a phone call, or send a heartfelt message. Even a small gesture can make a big difference in maintaining strong relationships.

  1. Join a Group or Club

Finding like-minded individuals can significantly boost your sense of belonging. Whether it’s a book club, a sports team, or a volunteer group, joining a community with shared interests can provide a sense of purpose and connection. It’s a great way to meet new people and build lasting friendships.

  1. Practice Active Listening

Good relationships are built on good communication. Practice active listening by giving your full attention during conversations, asking questions, and showing empathy. This strengthens your connections and makes others feel valued and understood.

  1. Reach Out to Neighbors

In this digital age, we sometimes overlook the importance of our immediate community. Make an effort to get to know your neighbors. A friendly chat or a simple wave can create a more supportive and connected neighborhood. 

  1. Be Open to New Experiences

Stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to new friendships and opportunities. Attend local events, take a class, or explore new hobbies. Being open to new experiences enhances your social wellness and enriches your life with diverse perspectives and skills.

Social wellness is a crucial component of our overall well-being. By nurturing our relationships and building a supportive community, we can lead happier, more fulfilling lives. This Social Wellness Month, take the time to connect, communicate, and celebrate the people around you.

 

Why Emotions are Important

Why Emotions are Important

Why are emotions important to feel? Do I really have to feel the “bad” emotions?

Throughout my time as a therapist I have had the opportunity to sit with my clients through all types of emotions. We have been able to laugh, cheer, and cry together. A pattern that I have noticed is many individuals being intentional about how they communicate and share the “positive”, and the avoidance and reservation regarding the “negative” emotions. But what if being in tune with all of our emotions, positive and negative, could be the puzzle piece needed to move towards healing? 

If we suppress this side of ourselves, is it possible to be embodied? Is it possible to move towards healing?

Lets focus on the ‘sad’ category of emotions. On this emotion wheel, bored and guilty are on two ends of the spectrum of sad. Although they are both ‘sad’ feelings, they are extremely different when focusing on how to support ourselves through it. Let’s picture you driving your friend’s car, not paying attention, and hit a fence. Although everyone is okay, the car is totaled. One emotion that may be present is guilt. How could you make yourself feel better? What if you take the car back, put it in the garage, and pretend it didn’t happen? That would likely add to the guilt. One option that may be more helpful could be calling your friend, apologizing, taking accountability, and working together to find a solution. Now, let’s focus on the ‘bored’ emotion. Let’s say you’re bored, sitting in your home. How do you navigate this? Would you call your friend and apologize? Likely not because it’s unrelated. Maybe you would go on a walk, find a friend to visit with or read a book. Both ‘bored’ and ‘guilty’ are considered sad feelings, but the direction to process through and find a solution is very different.

This is why it is so important to identify and hold space for all emotions that are present. If we can view our emotions as puzzle pieces that are both normal and expected throughout our human experience, the compulsion to suppress lessens. We don’t necessarily have control over the emotions that present themselves throughout our daily lives, but we do have the ability to control how we support ourselves while holding space for each of them. 

I challenge you to look at this emotion wheel and identify 3 emotions that you have felt throughout the day today, and why. The more we put the puzzle pieces together, the easier it will be to hold space for all emotions, without suppression. 

Your Relationship with Social Media

Your Relationship with Social Media

In 2024, the average daily time spent on social media in the U.S. was two hours and 16 minutes (Statista, 2024). So much of our time and energy is dedicated to online platforms such as Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, or Snapchat. Higher social media use can lead to negative mental health outcomes, such as depression, anxiety, and poor sleep (U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory, 2023). The content we view often portrays unrealistic standards for beauty and bodies, leading to comparison and feelings of inadequacy. This can result in poor body image, disordered eating behaviors, and decreased self-esteem.

Social media is not all bad. It allows us to connect and cultivate a sense of community and maintain relationships with others. Social media provides an outlet to express ourselves. It gives us access to countless resources to learn more about diverse experiences and perspectives. Social media offers a source of humor through hilarious reels or memes that give us a much-needed laugh. 

In the past, I struggled to find balance in my relationship with social media. I found that as I was consistently keeping up with how others were spending their time, I was not living my own life. Many of my clients navigating recovery from an eating disorder, body image concerns, and other mental health struggles have also wrestled with the role social media plays in their lives. Finding balance with social media is unique to each individual. For some clients, eliminating social media use altogether has provided space for needed healing. For others, social media accounts have offered access to resources and support for current mental health challenges.

Questions to explore about your relationship with social media:

  • What prompts you to turn to social media? 
    • Connection with others, a source of distraction, to numb uncomfortable feelings (such as boredom, sadness, or loneliness), etc.
  • What feelings arise while you are scrolling through social media?
  • How do you feel after consuming social media?
  • Does your social media consumption hinder or enhance your ability to connect with others in your daily life?
  • What does balance and mindfulness look like in your personal relationship with social media?

Things to Consider:

  • Create Boundaries (American Psychiatric Association, 2024; Oliveira, 2024)
    • Creating your own boundaries with social media could look like: setting limits for screen times, muting social media notifications, designating a specific time for social media use, creating media-free areas in your home, or taking an intentional hiatus from social media
  • Cultivate Your Feed
    • Unfollow accounts that promote comparison and unrealistic standards
    • Fill your feed with accounts that are educational, uplifting, and empowering
  • Practice Critical Consumption (Oliveira, 2024)
    • Instead of engaging in mindless scrolling, actively seek out content from credible, evidence-based sources
    • Recognize that you are viewing a “highlight reel” of curated, photo-shopped, and filtered content that is not always representative of reality

Tips For an “Awe-some” Summer

Tips For an “Awe-some” Summer

I am a summer lover. I try to convince myself I love all seasons but summer is the most intuitive season for me to love. Summer calls me outside, and Mother Earth invites me to play. There isn’t much that makes me happier than exploring and hiking the Wasatch Wilderness at the height of summer. It is in the mountains that I most commonly experience a sense of awe. Awe is one of my favorite emotions to feel. Awe is one of those emotions that can be hard to describe, but we know it when we feel it. It can feel like a sense of wonder, inspiration, transcendence, presence, complete absorption in the present experience, humility in the awareness of something magnificent, or something that invites us beyond our normal lived experience and into something more sublime. 

Awe can be experienced in a variety of contexts, from witnessing great acts of kindness, natural phenomena, artistic masterpieces, music, spiritual practices, meditation, communal gatherings, and celebrations, to name a few.  The summertime, with its longer days and inviting weather, offers a perfect canvas for cultivating these awe-inspiring experiences. 

Awe is more than just a fleeting feeling of amazement. It has significant psychological and physiological benefits. Awe is known to increase feelings of happiness and well-being, reduce stress and anxiety, increase a sense of connection with others, boost creativity, and increase gratitude, and mindfulness. 

While awe is a feeling, we can cultivate experiences that invite awe and also attune ourselves to it so that it becomes a more common experience for us. Dacher Keltner is a researcher on awe and the author of the new book: Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life. He describes that people who frequently experience awe have traits of open-mindedness and the ability to be absorbed or get lost in experiences. We can cultivate these traits through practicing curiosity and mindfulness. We can look for and be open to moments of awe. Indeed, we can find awe in everyday moments if we look for them. 

I love these simple life instructions from the poet Mary Oliver:

Instructions For Living a Life:

Pay attention.

Be astonished.

Tell about it.

Awe is a powerful emotion that can enrich our lives in myriad ways. By intentionally seeking out awe-inspiring experiences, especially during the summertime, we can cultivate a deeper appreciation for the world around us, feel connected to ourselves and others, and enhance our overall well-being. Whether through nature, culture, travel, mindfulness, or adventure, opportunities for awe are abundant and waiting to be discovered. Embrace the summer and let the world amaze you.

Here are some ways to create these moments:

Explore nature (my personal favorite) Nature is one of the most consistent sources of awe. Whether it’s a majestic mountain range, a serene forest, or the vast ocean, natural landscapes have a way of making us feel small in the best way.

  • Hiking: Find a local trail and spend an hour to a day hiking. The options are endless if you live in Utah, and the terrain varies from mountain peaks to valleys full of wildflowers and rushing waterfalls. 
  • Star gazing: Stargazing in a remote area, away from city lights, can be a humbling and awe-inspiring experience.
  • Water Activities: Kayaking, paddleboarding, or even just a swim in a natural body of water can provide a refreshing and awe-inducing connection with nature.

Attend Cultural Events: Summer is often filled with festivals, concerts, and outdoor performances that can evoke a sense of wonder and connection with others. For example, this September, I hope to make it to the Night Lights Lantern Festival, where I can have my own real life Disney’s Tangled moment. Other ideas include:

  • Music festivals: The collective energy of a live music performance, especially in an open-air setting, can be profoundly moving. Deer Valley in Park City always hosts a summer music festival, and several venues all around Utah host outdoor summer concerts. 
  • Art Installations: Visit outdoor art exhibits or public installations that invite interaction and contemplation. This can even include events as simple and local as Farmer’s Markets, where artists often show and sell their wares.

Travel and Discover: Traveling to new places, whether near or far, can offer fresh perspectives and novel experiences. This doesn’t have to be expensive or grandiose. Plan a road trip to explore unfamiliar destinations. The journey itself, with its changing landscapes and spontaneous discoveries, can be awe-inspiring. Utah has many potentially awe inspiring locations easily accessed by car. For example, I hope to visit the salt flats for a sunset sometime soon and finally see the spiral jetty in the Great Salt Lake. We are so close to several National Parks as well!

Mindful Practices. Good grief…I wonder when I will ever be consistent in my meditation practice. It’s something that is so hard for me to do…even though I know it’s very good for me. Meditation feels more doable and inviting when I do it outdoors. But meditation is also just one form of mindfulness. Practicing mindfulness…paying attention to the present moment, invites that curiosity and openness for awe in the everyday moments.

Document moments of awe. 

  • Photography: I love capturing moments of beauty and wonder on camera. This practice encourages me to look at the world with fresh eyes and find awe in the details. And I can remember and relive the sense of awe I felt when I reflect on the photos I captured.
  • Journal: For me, this can be how I “tell about it” from Mary Oliver’s life instructions. Reflecting on the context of moments of awe, how I felt, and what the experience meant to me can amplify its importance and translate the experience into more meaning for me. 

What other ideas do you have? 

Body Image and Your Sexual Health

Body Image and Your Sexual Health

If you’re struggling with body image concerns, it makes sense that you may also have struggles with sex. Sexual intimacy brings many of the ultimate forms of vulnerability together, and if you don’t feel comfortable with your body, you might find it difficult to connect and enjoy sexual experiences with a partner.

Here are a couple of things I hope you’ll remember if body image struggles are impacting your sexual relationship.

First, you don’t have to have a “perfect” body in order to enjoy sex. Despite what the media has portrayed for the last several decades, people in a variety of bodies can have fulfilling, meaningful, enjoyable sexual relationships. While the media might insist that you must be young, thin, conventionally attractive, and able-bodied to have and enjoy sexual experiences, this is simply not true. In real life, people in bodies of varying sizes, abilities, and ages are enjoying meaningful sexual connection. It’s true! People with acne, stretch marks, cellulite, wrinkles, body hair, and hair loss can and do enjoy loving, healthy sexual connection. The same goes for people in bodies with chronic illness, limb differences, ostomy bags, movement disorders, visual impairment, or other conditions.

Second, while body image happens in the mind (our thoughts, perceptions, and beliefs about our bodies), satisfying sex happens mostly in the body. The biggest thing you can do to help yourself when body image struggles interfere with sexual connection is this: reconnect with the experience of being in your body. When your mind starts pulling your attention toward body criticism or self-conscious thoughts, remember that your bodily sensations are your anchor for sexual connection. If you intentionally connect with your senses and let your mind be present, you can help yourself through negative body image thoughts.

All of this is easier said than done, of course. Working through body image struggles can be a complex journey. Seeking support from therapy, learning about sexual and relationship health, and having honest conversations with your partner are all excellent ways to help yourself work through body image struggles.

This topic is important to me as a marriage and family therapist. I really believe that healthy relationships are the backbone of our wellbeing as a human race, and I care about helping people find ways to strengthen positive connections with themselves and their partners. All people deserve to feel comfortable and confident in their bodies and in their relationships. Here are some other resources to support you in the realm of body image and relationships:

More Than a Body by Dr. Lindsay Kite and Dr. Lexie Kite

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski, PhD

Other blog posts: Navigating Recovery While In a Relationship, Part 1 and Part 2

And coming soon, Balance Health and Healing will be launching an online course I created called Body Image and Sex! The course is meant to help you overcome body image struggles and improve your sexual relationship.

 

I’m excited to share it with you! Join the Waitlist here.

Embracing Mental Health on “Let It Go Day”

Embracing Mental Health on “Let It Go Day”

Mental health is such an important part of our overall well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and handle life’s ups and downs. One powerful way to take care of our mental health is by learning to let go of things that weigh us down. That’s where “Let It Go Day,” celebrated on June 23rd, comes in.

“Let It Go Day” is a great reminder that hanging on to grudges, regrets, and past hurts can really drag us down. These negative feelings can cause stress, anxiety, and depression. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or ignoring what happened; it’s about acceptance and acknowledgment while releasing its hold on our present and future.

Letting go can be incredibly freeing. It helps us move forward, find peace, and see things more positively. Here are a few simple ways to embrace “Let It Go Day”:

  1. Reflect and Acknowledge: Spend a few moments thinking about what you’re holding onto. Recognize these feelings without judging yourself. Understanding what’s bothering you is the first step to letting it go.
  2. Practice Mindfulness: Try some mindfulness exercises like meditation or deep breathing. Staying present can reduce the power of negative thoughts about the past or future.
  3. Express Your Feelings: Talk to someone you trust about what you’re feeling. Sharing your thoughts can help you process and release them.
  4. Forgive: Forgiveness is key. It’s not about saying what happened was okay but about freeing yourself from the burden of holding onto it.
  5. Look Forward: Set positive goals and intentions for the future. Letting go of past burdens makes room for new opportunities and personal growth.

“Let It Go Day” is all about releasing what no longer serves us and embracing a healthier, more fulfilling life. By letting go of negative emotions, we can improve our mental health and cultivate a more peaceful mindset. So, let today be the day you start to let go and move forward with a lighter heart and a clearer mind.

 

Food Is More Than Just Fuel for the Body

Food Is More Than Just Fuel for the Body

Food is more than just fuel for our bodies. It’s an essential ingredient in the recipe of a meaningful and enriched human experience. Beyond its nutritional value, food plays a major role in our ability to connect, explore, and find comfort. 

Throughout our lives, we as humans experience a variety of emotions. Whether they are comfortable emotions such as feeling powerful, inspired, happy, or heavier emotions such as feeling insecure, overwhelmed, or disappointed, food can be a powerful way to find connection throughout it all. 

I want you to think about the happiest day of your life. Was it a celebration of a personal achievement? A wedding day? A notable day exploring a new city? How did you celebrate? While answering these questions, it is very likely that food was a memorable part of your experience. Whether it is because of the emotional connection, sensory experience, or cultural significance, food is a major aspect of a holistic approach to our daily lives. 

During times of hardship, it’s also common for food to be served as a way to find connection during burdensome times. Funerals, job loss, breakups, and hard days are all examples of moments where food is used as a token of encouragement, love, and unity. We use food as a way to honor, support, celebrate, and empathize with others during all phases of life.

If we limit our food intake, what are we actually limiting when looking at the bigger picture? Our ability to adventure, show up for others, find community, and regulate the large scale of human emotions. Food elevates the human experience. By limiting food, we put limits on our ability to live freely. 

I challenge you to think about how you can use food as a tool to enrich your human experience. 

How to Find Wonder in Your Body

How to Find Wonder in Your Body

Last summer, I had the opportunity to visit Banff National Park. The scenery was breathtaking. I marveled at the turquoise lakes, which get their gorgeous emerald hue from glacial rocks. As glaciers grind against the rocks, it creates fine particles of “glacier flour,” which are then deposited in the lake. When sunlight bounces off the water, the rays reflect a stunning sparkling color. This process does not happen overnight, rather after many years and seasons of change – thawing and grinding and melting and evolving. At first glance, the annoying rock in our shoes can seem meaningless and outright irritating. How would we view that rock differently knowing it contributed to some of the most vibrant lakes in the world?

I marvel at the diversity of our earth. The mountains, beaches, and even deserts offer examples of the beauty that exists because of stretching, shrinking, and growing. For instance, the sand on the shore of the beach reveals stretch marks from the tide coming in and out. We see this design as a manifestation of movement and change over time. Similarly, the stretch marks, scars, and wrinkles on our own bodies are proof that we have lived in them, evolving through life’s ups and downs.

What if we could apply the same marvel and wonder to the forces of nature we call our bodies? What if we allowed our bodies to change just as we allow nature to adapt? We see nature and accept its changes as beautiful, miraculous even. The body is no different. This vessel houses between 206 and 213 bones, over 600 muscles, and trillions of cells (Cleveland Clinic, 2024). Our bodies have 11 different organ systems, ranging from the digestive system to the nervous system to the cardiovascular system. Each is extremely complex, working with the other systems to help us thrive.

What freedom can you gain from viewing your body in this new way? How will you appreciate your body as it evolves through various seasons? There is a certain freedom, peace, and acceptance that comes with appreciating nature. My wish is that we apply that same appreciation and wonder to the bodies that are carrying us through life.